You can make choices, but you cannot choose outcomes. Outcome-based thinking, like expectations, leads to disappointments and resentments, and sometimes traumatic heartbreak and heartache. Acceptance, though a tall order, is the answer. It is simple, but it...

When we plant seeds, literally or figuratively, in any aspect of our lives or the lives of those around us, it’s only human to want to see them grow. When we put in effort, we expect to see results. But outcome-based thinking is a dangerous tightrope to walk...

Sometimes we wear our traumas and tragedies and losses like a badge of honor. Our misery on display for all to see, as if it were some kind of twisted accomplishment. We do not mean to do this. People do not mean to “honor” us like this, for this, and yet,...

God gives me moments of connection frequently that leave me breathless. Last night, for instance, we arrived from Honolulu to San Francisco to spend a couple days sightseeing in San Francisco before returning home to the East Coast. When I ordered our car...